Human nature is such that we pride ourselves on our successes and blame others for our failures. We often blame others for the unfortunate things that happen to us. Others are by default responsible for all our misfortunes and suffering.

Why is that?

Because it is much easier to shift the burden of our responsibilities onto someone else: it is always “someone else’s fault.”

However, we must ask ourselves the question: “What is our share of responsibility in what is happening?”

And even if the event that occurs is not our fault, and it still upsets us, why worry so much?

As for me, it is certain that before, to these questions I would have answered: “It’s because of others. I am the victim.” But today, with hindsight and more experience of life and the desire to learn from it, I tend to see things differently. My questioning is rather oriented towards: “What is my responsibility for what is happening to me?”

There’s still so much to learn in life. Why waste so much energy worrying about it, unaware that you’re not making any progress in the process?

What if we saw in every event an additional opportunity to equip ourselves? What if we saw in every suffering an opportunity to strengthen ourselves? Wouldn’t that make a world of difference? What if we saw life not as a struggle but as a perpetual learning process? What if we worked on our weaknesses more than on the precision of our complaints?

All these questions deserve reflection because they are the basis of the life of a person who is constantly improving, in search of the best version of themselves and for the happiness of those around them. If we pay enough attention, it is easy to realize that “the greatest fight of a life takes place within oneself.”

Instead of saying, “It’s the fault of…“, let’s learn that “we are our greatest challenge.”